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Learn To Love Yourself First

new years

This post is going to be part story part life lesson, but let me just preface it by saying that I have a ton of confidence when I straighten my hair. I mean, I'm not trying to be narcissistic, but when I straighten my hair I just feel really good about myself.

So I think there are definitely "themes" when it comes to new years. Basically everyone wants to tone up a little, maybe lose a few pounds, attempt something fun like skydiving or chopping off 10 inches of hair.... But I noticed this year something that kept coming up was how you should learn to love yourself before anything else and then the rest of life's surprises and outcomes will just fall into place.

Well, guess what. I was getting into bed on January 1st after an extremely terrible day basically convinced 2014 was about to be the worst year of my life (let's just say I got into a two hour text fight with a boy that didn't end until 4 AM and then my mom was sick the rest of the day leaving me to watch a boring movie and pour her water constantly), but right as I tucked myself in I realized: I would never ever want to be anyone else in the whole entire world. Sure, people have things better than me by a lot and some people's lives are just straight up fabulous and I wish I had aspects of that and I'm jealous of other people and I idolize celebrities.... but at the end of the day I realized I simply just would not want to ever give away my life. I can make myself frustrated and annoyed and I regret some things I do but I realized that I do love myself and that's something so important that I don't think anyone could ever take away from me.

Now, back to the whole "straight hair" thing... Obviously my hair was straight when I had this little epiphany so that could possibly be the reason for it but like, what else is new.

SO, after a terrible day... I ended up right where I needed to be to start the year off on a fabulous note.

Happy 2014...

xoxo, fran.


  1. I completely agree with what you are saying! Sometimes it is hard to be ourselves because something goes wrong or we have a hard day (or week), but in the end you have to remind yourself to love who you are and that things will get better!

    ~ Caroline

  2. This is a great post Fran! I totally agree that envying other people's lives can get in the way of appreciating our own lives and how great they truly are! It's so important to view the positive aspects of life rather than the negative. And straight hair is totally a confidence booster ;)

  3. Totally inspiring! You are so so right! Sometimes we all get so frustrated wishing our lives away, and wanting to be anyone but ourselves that we forget how truly lucky we are!

    xx Ally

  4. I totally agree with you Fran! Sometimes it's easier to only see the "bad" in your life. The best way to be happy is to stop comparing yourself to others. Sure it may seem like others have it all, but it's not your life, it's theirs. Your life is entirely yours and you can make it whatever you want to be! I love this post--so inspiring!

    XOXO, Kate

  5. This is such a great post! I think we all feel a bit better when our hair is done the way we like it, girl thing maybe? I totally agree with envying celebrities and perfect lives, but at the end of the day, you need to accept your own life and see the positives and the things we should be grateful for! Love this post!

  6. Great post! I love your perspective on this. I've had this happen and just remember to strive to be who you want to be, not what others what you to be.

    xoxo Abby


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